Anonymous asked: so what are some friends youve made at uf/people youve met? anyone you wish youd gotten closer to? any regrets?
Hi! I’ve made a lot of friends, for which I am thankful. I graduated high school and suddenly I realized how shallow most of my friendships were, and that I only had them because that was the only group available for me to choose friends from. To know this was both tragic and exciting, because I had no one…but then I also had a clean slate to attract friends who actually meshed with my interests and finally developing personality. I spend a lot of time with people in my common room and I have people to occasionally exercise with, which has never happened to me before, and it’s great motivation.
I’m always looking for people to hang out with and watch movies in pajamas or go to ska/punk/ska punk shows - currently, I’ve been inviting different people each time and I haven’t exactly found that special person I’d want to frequently attend shows with, but I’m sure they’re out there!
I don’t really think I’ve been at UF long enough to wish I’d been closer with someone or have any regrets. I have expressed some sadness that my current roommate and I aren’t better friends, but that has sort of fixed itself in a way. We see and confide in each other a little more often and that satisfies me. We’re trying very hard to live together next year!
There haven’t been any budding relationships or even steady casual encounters, so I don’t really have any boy news.
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Anonymous asked: I am sorry but I really need sex advice. My boyfriend and I have been dating for a month and half but we semi-dated (as in not officially) for four months. I told myself that I would wait until marriage for sex because I have always been taught that its a bad thing to have sex. Well now we are both in love with each other and we both want each other. I am just scared. I feel like I am suppose to stay a virgin. What if we have an accident? What if my parents find out? Am I a bad person? HELP!
First of all, don’t be sorry for needing help or asking questions, and no! You are most definitely not a bad person.
We’ve all been taught a lot of things by our parents, but there comes a time when we have to think about those things and figure out for ourselves if the experiences and opinions we’ve accrued thus far match up with our parents’ teachings.
If you do agree with your parents in thinking it’s best to wait until marriage to have sex, then by all means, continue to think so! That’s a tough road because you’re obviously a sexual being and there are pressures both from our own bodies and from other people, but it’s a good thing that outercourse (sexual rubbing and touching of genital areas and other sensitive body parts, as well as oral stimulation. Just anything non-penetrative and that you’re comfortable doing) and masturbation exist to relieve the tension.
If you’ve really thought this through yourself and you think you’re willing to have sex - talk to your partner. Hash it out and ask each other questions you might have, set guidelines for yourselves and make sure that you both walk away from that conversation comfortable with the future.
In terms of actually having sex, please be careful! Use protection, like a condom! Practice opening them properly, and practice taking them off safely, so no semen comes into contact with genital areas. Use water-based lube (the oil-based breaks down latex condoms), if you can acquire it! Make sure you’re in a comfortable environment. If the vibe doesn’t feel right, you are completely in control of your situation. If you’re still concerned about having an accident, do your own research! Just be careful. The internet can be a pretty shady place for advice sometimes. Finally, make sure to communicate with your partner before, during, and after having sex.
If you don’t feel comfortable telling your parents, then don’t. If you do, please do tell them. They can provide you with safer methods to enjoy sex with your partner, like providing birth control, and if you’re a lady, they can take you to a gynecologist to make sure everything’s ok once you’re sexually active (though you don’t have to be sexually active to visit the gynecologist). If your parents find out, just be honest. It might be a bad time, but it will pass.
I really hope this is of some worth to you.